Helping Kids Adjust

  1. All children should be told about the divorce at the same time

  2. Children should be told only as much as they need to know

  3. Children need to know that they have not caused the divorce

  4. Parents must emphasize the finality of their decision

  5. Arrangements for the children must be carefully explained

  6. Children should be assured of each parents continuing love

  7. Children should be encouraged to express fear, sadness and anger

  8. Limits should be set on children’s behaviors

  9. Parents should enlist the help of other adults

  10. Battling parents should declare a truce when they are with the children

  11. Children should not be used as weapons

  12. Children’s lives should be changed as little as possible

  13. Parents should use available resources

  14. Parents must recognize the conflict between their needs & their kid’s needs

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