Don’t take
sides; remain neutral.
Never make
derogatory remarks about the other parent in front of the children.
Occasionally
deliver the children to the other parent and pick them up again or allow their
home to be utilized as a pick up and delivery point to avoid confrontations.
Be available to
the kids if they want to talk, but don’t try to pressure them to talk about
the divorce or what is going on.
Reassure the
children that their extended family members on both sides love them and are
there for them.
Invite the
children into their home rather than always visiting them in your home. Kids
need time in a stable environment when theirs seems to be falling apart.
Include your kids
in some of their family outings or activities.
Keep in touch
with notes and phone calls (especially on birthdays).