ABOUT DIVORCE
Divorce Statistics:
National & International
Arizona
Most Common Reasons for an Affair
National Divorce Statistics
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In 1940, there were 264,000 divorces in the U.S. |
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In 1992, there were 1,215,000 divorces in the U.S. |
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Over 50% of first marriages end in divorce |
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60% of second marriages end in divorce |
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67% of all recent marriages will end in divorce |
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84% of African-American marriages end in divorce |
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40-45% of American children will spend part of their childhood living in a single parent home |
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60% of children born in the 1990’s will live in a single parent family before age 16 |
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15% of the children will see their custodial parent divorce, remarry, and re-divorce before they reach age 18 |
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1,000,000+ children are effected by divorce each year |
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In any year in the 1980’s, 12,000,000 children lived with a divorced parent |
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80% of these children were not given an explanation on why their parents divorced |
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50% of divorced people are back in court less than one year after the divorce is final. The number one issue is children. |
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Less than 25% of all homes are composed of the biological unit of mother, father, and their offspring. |
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80% of the time only one spouse wants the divorce |
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66% of the time the woman wants the divorce. |
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75% of all divorced people eventually remarry. |
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65% of remarriages involve children from a prior marriage. |
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80% of children of divorce are not given an explanation at to why their parents divorced. |
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65% of children living with a stepparent live with a stepfather. |
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75% of children of divorce end up going through a divorce themselves. |
| When counselors and therapists who work with with teens asked "What do you see as the major stresses/problems facing today's teenagers?" 72% of the respondents listed "Problems arising from parental divorce/remarriage." |
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A longevity study revealed that individuals from a divorced home live four years less than individuals from an intact home. |
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If a woman is left, it generally takes her five years to get over the anger. |
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If a man is left, it generally takes him ten years to get over the anger. |
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Tragically, over 50% of children will grow up in families where parents stay angry. |
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England’s divorce rate is around 40% |
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Australia’s divorce rate is around 33% |
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Much lower in Italy and many eastern European countries Arizona Divorce Statistics |
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Arizona divorce rate was 64% |
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Maricopa County divorce rate was 74% |
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39% of Arizona’s children are born out of wedlock. |
Sources:
Speech by Joan Berlin Kelly, (Co-Author of Surviving the Breakup) April
9, 1999 at a Parent Education Conference in Tucson, AZ.
National Center for Health Statistics
Family Therapy Networker, May-June 1994
Helping the Children Deal with Divorce
by Edward Teyber
Divorce Mediation by Diane
Neamann
...For the Children’s Sake . . .
by Elaine E. Head of the Families in Transition Support Foundation.
Arizona’s Judge Mark Armstrong, 1997
SIX TYPES OF DIVORCE
EMOTIONAL DIVORCE: One or both spouses begin to withdraw emotionally from the other until there is an emotional detachment. The number of needs met outside the marriage increases.
LEGAL DIVORCE: Papers are served, lawyers are involved, and the fight begins. Child custody becomes an issue.
ECONOMIC DIVORCE: Property is divided. Standards of living are frequently lowered. Child support is determined.
PARENTAL DIVORCE: Parents are supposed to be divorcing each other, but all too frequently one or both also divorce the children. Custody and visitation are battled over. Children are caught in the crossfire.
COMMUNITY DIVORCE: Friends are asked to choose sides. And families draw battle lines, refusing to cross into enemy territory even for the sake of the children.
PSYCHIC DIVORCE: When former spouses begin to think of themselves as separate entities instead of one, when the emotional bonds are finally broken, psychic divorce has taken place. Some people, however, are never able to completely detach themselves from a former spouse. They struggle with their individuality, finding it difficult to be their own person. If they can’t attach to their former mate, they will frequently attach themselves in an unhealthy manner to one of their children or to a new love interest. Other people stay attached by keeping the fighting and bitterness alive. They may as well have stayed married.
Source: Paul Bohannan, Divorce and After, (Garden City, NJ: Doubleday, 1970).
Some surveys (including the Hite Report) estimate that:
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50% of married women in the U.S. have sex outside marriage |
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66% of married men in the U.S. have sex outside marriage |
The most common reasons frequently cited for An Affair:
- UNRESOLVED ANGER
- ATTEMPT TO PUNISH SPOUSE FOR GRIEVANCES
- GOING OUTSIDE THE MARRIAGE FOR COMFORT, UNDERSTANDING, OR APPRECIATION
- AN ATTEMPT TO REGAIN YOUTHFULNESS
- A RESPONSE TO NEGLECT
- LACK OF ASSERTIVENESS
- ATTEMPT TO RAISE ONE’S SELF-ESTEEM
- AN ESCAPE FROM THE REALITY AND BOREDOM OF EVERY DAY LIFE
- CHARACTER WEAKNESS
- UNMET SEXUAL NEEDS
If this has happened in your relationship, we suggest you read The
Myth of the Greener Grass by J. Allan Petersen. Tyndale House
Publishers, Inc.
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According to Abigail Van Buren:
A man picks up a tramp because he wants a female companion who is no better than he is. In her company, he doesn’t feel inferior. He rewards her by treating her like a lady.
He treats his wife (who is a lady) like a tramp because he feels that by degrading her he will bring her down to his level. This makes him feel guilty. So in order to get even with his wife for making him feel guilty, he keeps right on punishing her.